Category: Personal Essay

There is No Such Thing As Closure

Posted on
Mar 29, 2019
 

I am scheduled to leave for Germany in several days. I have already told my husband that I don’t want to go, in a whining tone that stretches syllables out so far that the words they once formed are barely recognizable. As a woman nearing the aging of forty, this is how I am coping…

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When Online Threats Become Real. (It’s Not Just Trolling.)

Posted on
Mar 15, 2019
 
Posted in: Personal Essay

(Note: this piece does not link to any of the shooter’s video or manifesto directly, but some of the news sites that I link to may do so. A few include screencaps of his 4-chan forum discussions. Please click with caution.) 49 people died yesterday, gunned down in two mosques in coordinated attacks across New…

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Seeing Genoa for The First Time Again.

Posted on
Dec 11, 2018
 

It is with some embarrassment that I tell you that I hated Genoa the first time I visited there, a decade and a lifetime ago. In my book, the only mention I make of the seaside city – the birthplace of Christopher Columbus, the location where Marco Polo was imprisoned for a year (because Italy…

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The Women Who Write Letters

Posted on
Sep 18, 2018
 

(Above: my student ID in 1999. Let’s just keep our comments to ourselves.)   There’s this pattern I keep seeing. It goes like this: Woman accuses man of sexual assault. Man denies accusations. Man’s PR team then releases numerous letters from women saying that he’s not a sexual harasser because, you know, he didn’t harass…

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  • Ugh, hard same, gems. Hard same.

Watching this sweet show made lockdown a little easier. #stevenuniverse #stevenuniversefuture
  • It is the apex of privilege that I can walk around my neighborhood, face covered, and know that no one will think twice about it. Trying to be more aware of that privilege, and how I can use it for good. But even talking about it feels self-congratulatory. #irunwithmaud
  • When Alison Roman says to put her slow roasted salmon on a bagel, you do it. This was just lovely.
  • This is the team up I've been waiting for. ❤️❤️❤️
  • Had a video podcast call today. Host joked that the dress code was formal. Challenge accepted. (I've never had the chance to wear this dress out.)
  • Make Kouign Amann, they said. It'll be easy, they said. You definitely won't set off two smoke alarms, they said. #quarantinebaking #kouignamann #instadesserts
  • Would I go so far as to call myself a baking genius? Yes. Yes, I would. 😅

My family is from the south, so we would call this pizza bianca ("white pizza) - and nobody really made it at home. But I became obsessed with it when we went to Genoa, and Rand and I seek out whenever we're in Liguria. We may have canceled our Italy trip, but I'll be damned if I'm not eating all the carbs. #saminnosrat #focaccia #saltacidfatheat
  • Before, and after. We're both sort of surprised by how well this home haircut turned out. Apparently I know how to do a gorgeous fade? I will not be exploring this talent further. #superstressful #tookforever #quarantinehaircut
  • No, I'm not making the damn bed.
  • Took a walk today, because, well, what else is there to do? Apparently a lot of folks had the same idea, because keeping my six feet of distance from everyone was tricky (I walked down the center of a lot of side streets). And while the sidewalks were full, the stores were empty and locked up - and it's so hard to see that and not know what the long term impact of this will be. A good reminder to support places if you can, keep your distance, wash your hands, buy gift certificates, tip your delivery driver, don't take more than what you need, and remember: we're all in this together.

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